Dating in the Time of Recession
It seems single men are one of the hardest hit demographic groups dealing with our recession. According to ThirdAge, an on line news agency, men have been hit much harder than women by this recession. Close to 80% of the jobs lost in 2008 were held by men - per the Bureau of Labor Statistics.
Unemployment is the last thing a guy wants to share with a potential date. Women are not interested in a guy who they might have to support. Things are tough enough already. A lot of men are careful not to say 'I'm unemployed,' said Pepper Schwartz, chief relationship expert at Perfectmatch.com. "They say, 'I'm working on this project. I'm taking a sabbatical from work' or 'You heard GM declaring bankruptcy? I worked there.' They find ways to make it sound like it's not permanent." Guys opt for the term 'consultant'.
Men propose a cheap date like cooking a dinner at his house. That reminds me of a cautionary tale. True story - very creepy.
A female friend of mine, a professor at a major university, was recently divorced and back out on the dating scene. Regina had smarts, but was naive and trusting. She accepted a date from a guy she met on line after months and months of correspondence. Regina agreed to met "Ed" for dinner. Shortly before they were to meet, Ed called and said he was having car trouble. Would Regina pick him up at his house?
Following his directions, Regina arrived at Ed's house which was a little off the beaten path. He greeted he at the door with a handshake and invited her in. He wasn't quite ready to leave. She sat in the living room feeling the discomfort that comes with the thought: 'What have I gotten myself into?'
Ed then suggested that instead of going out, he would make a romantic dinner for her right there. He said he was an amateur chef. Still willing to please, not willing to hurt feelings and new at dating, Regina agreed.
Banging pots and the smell of melting butter came from the kitchen. Regina fought with herself. He had been a perfect gentleman, but they were out in the woods. Just as she was about to leave, Ed came out of the kitchen - stark naked and carrying a plate of scrambled eggs.
Happily Regina lived to share her story. And I pass it on to you. Dinner at his place or yours is not the smartest idea. At least not until you've known him for five or six years.
With Love & Laughter
Unemployment is the last thing a guy wants to share with a potential date. Women are not interested in a guy who they might have to support. Things are tough enough already. A lot of men are careful not to say 'I'm unemployed,' said Pepper Schwartz, chief relationship expert at Perfectmatch.com. "They say, 'I'm working on this project. I'm taking a sabbatical from work' or 'You heard GM declaring bankruptcy? I worked there.' They find ways to make it sound like it's not permanent." Guys opt for the term 'consultant'.
Men propose a cheap date like cooking a dinner at his house. That reminds me of a cautionary tale. True story - very creepy.
A female friend of mine, a professor at a major university, was recently divorced and back out on the dating scene. Regina had smarts, but was naive and trusting. She accepted a date from a guy she met on line after months and months of correspondence. Regina agreed to met "Ed" for dinner. Shortly before they were to meet, Ed called and said he was having car trouble. Would Regina pick him up at his house?
Following his directions, Regina arrived at Ed's house which was a little off the beaten path. He greeted he at the door with a handshake and invited her in. He wasn't quite ready to leave. She sat in the living room feeling the discomfort that comes with the thought: 'What have I gotten myself into?'
Ed then suggested that instead of going out, he would make a romantic dinner for her right there. He said he was an amateur chef. Still willing to please, not willing to hurt feelings and new at dating, Regina agreed.
Banging pots and the smell of melting butter came from the kitchen. Regina fought with herself. He had been a perfect gentleman, but they were out in the woods. Just as she was about to leave, Ed came out of the kitchen - stark naked and carrying a plate of scrambled eggs.
Happily Regina lived to share her story. And I pass it on to you. Dinner at his place or yours is not the smartest idea. At least not until you've known him for five or six years.
With Love & Laughter
Posted by Barbara Silkstone at 6/26/2009 8:39 AM 
Categories: Relationships,Dating
Tags: Relationships 527 Naked Men and One Woman Dating
Categories: Relationships,Dating
Tags: Relationships 527 Naked Men and One Woman Dating
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